This is a conversation I have been having with many different people, and not just during coaching sessions.
One particular one was at a recent Book Club Session. The Book Club that I run is a bit different, in that we don't all read the same book, we read whatever it is we want to read, and then share it with the rest of the group. It always leads to some awesome discussions along the way, and often we find that a thread weaves it way subtly through the different books we bring and the conversations that follow. Sometimes there is no thread at all!
This last one, was so definitely a thread... I spoke of a book I had been reading that was written in such a way that was spoke in to what we make things mean about us. The author did really well to get inside the different character's heads and the chatter that can often be going on for us.
Another member brought an autobiography of a man that had transitioned in to a woman, and their journey of self-acceptance, another shared some poetry, and another a light-hearted book that sparked a discussion on what I call bandaids, things we do or use to cover up pain that we are feeling.
I also shared Brene Brown's book Braving the Wilderness, where she talks about belonging and it was at that point that the themes started weaving, that we can often let others off the hook, but be so judgemental of ourselves, and when we are able to be kinder and more accepting of ourselves, we are able to really connect back to who we are, and feel that sense of belonging within ourselves and the world we live in.
Sometimes I feel the most connected out in nature. By a river or a waterfall, watching the waves pound in just a few steps away from where I am standing, feeling the sand between my toes as I walk along the beach. It may be the sunrise or seeing the sun set, being on top of a mountain, or deep in to the green of the bush, with just the birds singing their tune around us.
When I started seeing that I simply belong to me (hence the journey of self-love and acceptance) and belonging to this world as a whole, something seemed to settle and rest easier for me.
Liz our Life Coach